Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Women and Some of Our Secrets...shhhhhhhh

Women are full of secrets. It is our best defense and our greatest "self-preservation" tool. Keeping secrets does not mean that we lie, it just means that we hide. In the movie "Titanic", there is a line that sums it up, perfectly..."a woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets". There are just some things that are better left unsaid.

One of the biggest secrets, kept by women, is "that one love we just can't let go". Chances are that woman you are interested in pursuing has one person, still in her heart, that she will, subconsciously, be comparing you to. It's not a conscious effort. Unfortunately, for you, it just seems to happen. It does not mean that she isn't able to love you, it just means that she will probably be looking for how that felt. It's the same as that "first high".

Women tend to be pro's at pushing their true feelings aside. For example, if you have friends, who are women, chances are that at least one of them have feelings, beyond friendship, for you. For women who feel this way, they are able to set those feelings aside, because for them, being your friend is better than nothing.

In today's society, most women tend to come with a lot of "baggage". Children, ex-husbands, etc.. Don't think, for one minute, that women aren't aware of how men feel about that. Women, too, have some issues with their own "baggage". Try to be empathetic. The last thing any woman wants, is to have her "baggage" get in the way of what could be a really great relationship.

Women NEED to be heard. Granted, some women have a very difficult time communicating in a way that even makes you want to listen. A lot of the time, women tend to use too many words, use words that puts the man on the defense, and never seem to know when to be quiet. They still need to be HEARD. Sometimes, women have lousy timing. It's not done on purpose, they really don't mean to bother you during the "big game". They just have something that needs to be said, and if it's not said NOW, it may not get said at all. Women like to feel that they are important. Really hearing them helps that.

Women love to be romanced. Women read romance novels to see how it's done, and end up wishing with all their might, that their man would do things like that. I suggest finding one of her novels and give it a good read. You may be able to find some really good pointers there.

Cuddling. Women like being held, and cuddled, especially after making love. The reason for this is very simple. It keeps them from feeling cheap and/or used. When a man rolls away, after sex, the woman will typically lay there thinking something like "OK, maybe I should ask him where he left the money" or "well, that was fun, not. What should I do now?". For most women, love-making involves more "giving" than taking, and we want to know that you are grateful. Whether men believe this or not, love-making actually involves sacrifice for the woman. More women fake orgasm because they want the man to believe he is a great lover. Most women would never admit that. Men have to understand that. Knowing that her man is satisfied is a great pleasure for a woman, and when you just roll away, or get up to go watch the game, whatever, it takes away from the pleasure for the woman. She will feel cheap, used, unappreciated, and you may end up paying for it later.

I could go on and on, but I can't give it all away. I hope this article brings you some insight, and helps you to improve your relationship. Please remember this, it is the little things that count that most.



blkitalianpride75 said...

Boy you hit the nail on the head with this one!!!! Great post :)

Charlie Wolfe said...

Thanks for the comment and for visiting! Hope to see you soon!

Anna said...

Fabulous!!! Simply fabulous. You have a great gift. You nailed it perfectly. And a lot of us stay single due to 'baggage' and broken hearts. Sometimes it is better just to stay alone than deal with the pain of it all.

Charlie Wolfe said...

Thank you so much for the compliment! It is so nice to know that women are approving the content. And I completely understand about choosing to stay alone...currently my choice.
Take care and hope to see you soon.

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